Be a Model

…for the time would fail me to tell of Gideon, and of Barak, and of Samson, and of Jephthae; of David also, and Samuel, and of the prophets: Who through faith subdued kingdoms, wrought righteousness, obtained promises … Heb 11.32-33

Behavior modeling is a psychology theory that says that we learn by watching the behavior of others and then imitate what we see. We learn from others how to behave. It’s a valid theory, and explains why parents should model correct behavior for their children. Do you want them to say “please” and “thank you”? Then say “please” and “thank you” yourself, and they will imitate you. This is modeling.

It can be used in adult situations as well. Do you want to have a discussion with your spouse (co-worker, friend) without raised voices? Then you speak calmly and without anger. It’s not a technique with immediate results, but it is effective over the long term, especially with children. Many people believe that anger and violence in children is caused by modeling of violent behavior seen at home or in TV and movies.

The Bible is full of models, both good and bad. The ultimate model for good is Jesus Christ, but if he is too lofty to imitate, there are many more ordinary models. Look to Abigail, who gave aid to David when he was in hiding, because it was the right and fair action to take. Or to Peter, who at first thought that the Gentiles could not be accepted by God, but changed his mind when God showed him differently. Josiah postponed the destruction of Judah by his personal faith and devotion to God.

And there are models of behavior that lead to destruction and separation from God. King Saul started as a devoted follower of God, but was drawn away by the power and status of his kingship. Sisera lost a battle where he had the clear military advantage, and was executed because he betrayed the trust of his friend’s wife. Ahab and Jeroboam, kings of Israel, followed strange gods, and brought destruction to the country they ruled.

We can choose. Do we want to imitate the behaviors that result in God’s blessings? Or do we choose to imitate the behaviors that result in separation from God?